Pillow Talk: Killer orgasms are deadly

Sex can be a beautiful and meaningful act. For some couples sex can even help to strengthen and deepen the shared emotional bonds. But sex can also maim and kill when common sense is ignored.

I was watching the movie "Rising Sun" starring Sean Connery and Wesley Snipes the first time I realized people could die while having consensual sex. The two stars are investigating the strangulation of a young woman at the party of a new Japanese business. Eventually, the two uncover the woman's fetish for autoerotic asphyxiation, a dirty little secret some people would like to keep hidden.

The movie was thought provoking, and I talked about autoerotic asphyxiation or AeA with some of my friends. I learned some very nice girls like to hold their breath right before they orgasm to heighten the sensation. I was surprised at the creativity, but I didn't think much of it until I watched "My Life as a House" years later. Here I am watching a Kevin Kline movie, and there is Hayden Christensen masturbating while strangling himself. I guess Anakin wanted to make sure we knew it was a serious Kevin Kline movie.

I found myself disturbed by this scene, and I mentioned it to my guy friends to see if anyone knew any guys who pretended to hang themselves while masturbating. Every guy seemed to know of a friend from his youth who did it, but no one owned up to doing it. Afteward, I started paying attention to unexplained hanging suicides of young men, especially those in their underwear who didn't leave a note.

I did a little research and uncovered a big taboo. Hundreds of years ago, people observed hanged criminals had erections after death. People put two and two together and got bigger orgasms. During Victorian times London even had a "Hanged Men's Club" which aided its members through the autoerotic asphyxiation process safely.

While 250 to 1000 deaths are attributed to AeA each year in America, most parents are too ashamed to admit their son was an accidental suicide and would rather clean up the scene before calling the cops. They often say he killed himself on purpose rather than he was trying to heighten his masturbation. Death by autoerotic asphyxia is almost entirely a 12-25 year old male problem and usually happens when the person is alone. Since many AeA accidents are caused by heart attacks before the person even loses consciousness the only benefit to having another person around is to ensure 911 is called.

These days, young males are teaching each other to play "chocking games" by filming it and posting to YouTube and other sites. Unfortunately, these hormone-driven youth are without the common sense God gave them and think nothing bad will happen while getting a sexual thrill though strangling.

Speaking of a lack of common sense, a friend of mine who works in an ER told me a story about another kind of AeA. This was Auto(mobile) Erotic Asphyxia caused one night by a young woman giving a blow job to a guy while he was driving. He hit a deer, and she accidentally bit through his penis. The car then crashed down a ravine where the couple was knocked unconscious. The woman suffocated because his penis was lodged deep in her throat, and the man died from blood loss because no one saw the crashed car until dawn. If you want to get a hummer in your Hummer, pull over or do it in the back seat. Orgasms aren't worth dying over.

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