2008 Woodie Awards
Pillow Talk: Female orgasms, ejaculation: myth or mysterious truth
Natasha Arce
Issue date: 1/31/08 Section: Opinion
For some, the idea that a woman can have an orgasm is a complete myth. It's been proven that female orgasm is not a myth, but it is true that not all women experience it.
What happens during a female orgasm? A woman can feel stimulation in her clitoris, can have increase blood pressure, heart rate, and breathing, tension can build in the pelvis, muscles contract-particularly the uterus, vagina, pelvis, and/or rectum, and finally, all of this tension is released upon orgasm.
There is talk that women can experience different types of orgasms, clitoral or vaginal. Studies have shown that regardless of what is stimulated to achieve orgasm, there is only one kind of orgasm. That being said, women can experience a single, multiple, or sequential multiple orgasms.
A single orgasm is a simple rush and release that can last up to a minute. A multiple orgasm is less common, but it is achieved when orgasms are achieved one after another with little or no time between them. The last, would be orgasms separated by a minute or so.
Something that is discussed only in close circles is female ejaculation. Part of the reason is that there is little research in the area, but again, it does exist. A female can release a liquid from her urethra, but the origin is unknown. The liquid is not urine, and researchers believe that the liquid may originate in the Skene's glands which are located in a woman's urethra and are made of tissue that's similar in composition to a man's prostate gland. If a woman has this ability, she should not be embarrassed by it. The fluid can range from a little to quite a lot, and seemingly the variation depends on how willing the woman is to let herself go.
I wish I could give a magic formula that could promise orgasm every sex session, but I cannot. Achieving orgasm is different for every woman. Sometimes it requires the G-spot, sometimes it's purely clitoral, and even other times it's a crazy combination that requires a full moon, candles, and 3 different positions for 2 minutes exactly.
Joking aside, to achieve orgasm requires open communication with a partner. Also, an open mind for experimentation would be beneficial. Perhaps orgasm may be achieved through oral stimulation but not through missionary. Maybe toys that stimulate the clitoris during intercourse can help.
Note, a woman can have perfectly enjoyable sex without having orgasm. If a female is not having orgasms during sex it does not mean that the male is not performing correctly. It is just a matter of finding what makes the female tick. Avoid the pressure and the hype, and experiment to find the process that works best for you and your partner.
What happens during a female orgasm? A woman can feel stimulation in her clitoris, can have increase blood pressure, heart rate, and breathing, tension can build in the pelvis, muscles contract-particularly the uterus, vagina, pelvis, and/or rectum, and finally, all of this tension is released upon orgasm.
There is talk that women can experience different types of orgasms, clitoral or vaginal. Studies have shown that regardless of what is stimulated to achieve orgasm, there is only one kind of orgasm. That being said, women can experience a single, multiple, or sequential multiple orgasms.
A single orgasm is a simple rush and release that can last up to a minute. A multiple orgasm is less common, but it is achieved when orgasms are achieved one after another with little or no time between them. The last, would be orgasms separated by a minute or so.
Something that is discussed only in close circles is female ejaculation. Part of the reason is that there is little research in the area, but again, it does exist. A female can release a liquid from her urethra, but the origin is unknown. The liquid is not urine, and researchers believe that the liquid may originate in the Skene's glands which are located in a woman's urethra and are made of tissue that's similar in composition to a man's prostate gland. If a woman has this ability, she should not be embarrassed by it. The fluid can range from a little to quite a lot, and seemingly the variation depends on how willing the woman is to let herself go.
I wish I could give a magic formula that could promise orgasm every sex session, but I cannot. Achieving orgasm is different for every woman. Sometimes it requires the G-spot, sometimes it's purely clitoral, and even other times it's a crazy combination that requires a full moon, candles, and 3 different positions for 2 minutes exactly.
Joking aside, to achieve orgasm requires open communication with a partner. Also, an open mind for experimentation would be beneficial. Perhaps orgasm may be achieved through oral stimulation but not through missionary. Maybe toys that stimulate the clitoris during intercourse can help.
Note, a woman can have perfectly enjoyable sex without having orgasm. If a female is not having orgasms during sex it does not mean that the male is not performing correctly. It is just a matter of finding what makes the female tick. Avoid the pressure and the hype, and experiment to find the process that works best for you and your partner.
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Anna Davis
posted 2/02/08 @ 5:53 PM CST
I was wondering in your last paragraph what was your intention with segregating the lesbian population from your column? I can not tell if you just did not realize what you said or if you were saying that in lesbian sex the women always orgasm. (Continued…)
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